First meetups can feel like a job interview. They don't have to. The goal isn't to impress — it's to find out whether you enjoy each other's company.
Pick an easy setting
Coffee, a walk in the park or a casual brewery gives you something to look at and talk about. Choose a public place, and let a friend know where you'll be.
Ask open questions
Swap "Do you like your job?" for "What's the best part of your week usually?" Open questions invite stories, and stories create connection.
Conversation starters that work
- What's something you've gotten into lately?
- What does a perfect Saturday look like for you?
- What's a place you'd love to show a visitor in your city?
- What's the best thing you've eaten this month?
Silence is fine
A short pause isn't failure. Smile, take a sip, comment on your surroundings. Comfortable quiet is actually a good sign.
End clearly and kindly
If you'd like to meet again, say so. If not, a simple "It was nice meeting you — take care" is honest and respectful. Clear endings help everyone.
